This is my still favorite map of voting patterns.Click that dude to get the full sized image.
The reason it's my favorite is it gives the best view into how we live, instead of how our votes registered. All that vast territory claimed by the "red states" is shown to be unoccupied for the most part. All the red state folks are clumped up around the blue state folks, even in red states.
Now, one thing has been made clear: no one wants to live under rules made by people whose values are alien to their own. I think we can all agree on that. Public policy as espoused by Conservatives, and the religious elites in particular, would interfere in any number of areas most of us consider personal and private. Public policy as espoused by Progressives would prevent interference in those areas.
Under Conservative public policy, half the nation would be angry because they are prevented from living as they wish. Under Progressive public policy, some fraction of the other half
being generous, let's say half of them
some 25% of the nation would be angry because the other 75% can live as they wish.
I don't see anything to be confused over.