Franken-Nations (below) pulled together several things I need to write something about. There was one thing I forgot to include in that list, and it's best exemplified by a post at The Whisky Bar and the comments made (59 when I last visited).
Billmon's post represents the best response I can ask for from white folks: I know how I was raised, how it shaped me and I accept that. I know the reality of what I've seen and I know I don't have to pass that on. And I'm willing to say that to white folks.
Do you know how rare that last attribute is? And do you know how important it is for white folks to say this sort of thing? If not, imagine what all the commenters would have said if an openly Black writer made all the same points Billmon did about white people.
The source of a piece of information is, itself, a piece of information that is taken into account. People within a collective receive things differently when it comes from within the circle.
That last concept is what I'll have in mind when I revisit all the things I listed in the Franken-Nations post.