Steely resolve
This was going to be a comment elsewhere, but I decided I wanted to say it out loud, in general.
The first requirement is that you pursue what you think is the most important thing in the world. Without purpose there is no resolve. This most important thing can be a person, a principle, whatever. And it doesn't matter why it's the most important thing to you. All that matters is that it's something you enjoy, can see clearly, and see coming about.
Choose carefully…your will in related areas will be as strong as the area's relationship to your focus, and your will in general will get stronger from the exercise but only in this one thing you can be unbreakable.
Second is an understanding that unbreakable will does not guarantee success in any particular thing. Recently I posted a quote here: "Good judgment comes from experience. Experience comes from bad judgment." I would add basically reliable data, a cup of intelligence and a pinch of detachment to the recipe for experience.
Now, add that experience to measured patience (measured because you don't want to wait so long you're actually being jerked) and unbreakable will. That's how you get guaranteed success.
Third is some advice on providing resources for a developing will, as opposed to development of will.
- Develop the practice of doing as little as possible when affecting things. It will require you to understand this most important thing as a process, make you understand the importance of change, timing and balance. Keeping the use of your resources as low as possible means you'll have more resources to deal with the inevitable unexpected.
- When dealing with important issues, do not experiment. Use techniques you are comfortable with the the point of reflexivity. When you have time, are playing around or whatever, push yourself to find your limits…experiment&make shit up…practice until you got the new stuff down to the point of reflexivity.
- Watch out for habits. Literally. When you see yourself acting from habit, pay attention to what triggered it and what need it fulfills. As long as you react from habit you can be manipulated, which is the antithesis of unbreakable will.
- Recognizing defeat and yielding before you're too damaged to try again later is an exercise of will. Fighting on until you're broken is, shall we say, a bad example to set before your subconscious.
